Are you getting in the way of goal setting success? Some of the most common barriers to goals setting involve fear and lack of self belief. Some individuals don’t even have enough self-belief to set a goal, let alone following them until they start to beome their reality
If you’re struggling to set goals, yet you see the benefit of them, then this article is just for you.
Some goals are set because other people want them for you. I know both Sarah and I have done things in the past in order to help someone else achieve their dreams. A specific example of this was Sarah learning to blog so that we could attract clients to the transport business. I set up a building company because my dream was to be my own boss, although being a builder wasn’t my own dream career, it was suggested to me by a friend.
If you don’t really want what you say you want, it will be very difficult to set a goal and achieve it. Be sure that you’ve set the goals for the right reasons and that it’s something you truly want. If it helps, write down the pros and cons of any goal and know why you want to achieve that result before setting it in stone.
I think I’m the only goal setter in my family. I know Sarah’s the only one in hers. Many people think goal setting is just wishful thinking and doesn’t really work. If you don’t really understand the power behind appropriate goal setting, it can be hard to take the time out of your day to truly set a goal and then achieve it.
Research has shown that 5% of the population actually write down goals, and achieve them. The other 95% don’t bother and don’t achieve them. You’ll find that the Dream Catchers in the world set realistic goals, and then work that goal into their schedule every single day. Even people who experience “overnight success” didn’t really achieve everything overnight. It was many nights of following a plan that brought them the results that made you sit up and take notice of them.
Learn Mandarin before the end of the week? If you’ve actually tried to set a goal before but didn’t experience results, it’s probably because you just don’t know how to set a goal. It’s not as easy as just writing down your dreams and crossing your fingers. Goals are dreams with plans. They are realistic, specific, achievable end results that you want to see. Take the time to learn the best goal setting techniques in order to experience goal setting success.
Perhaps you’re one of the people do not bother setting goals because they have a self-limiting belief that they’ll fail anyway. Therefore, if they do not set a goal, they don’t have to be a failure. But remember that the idea of planning to succeed over planning to fail is realistic. No goal setting is a recipe for failure; goal setting is a recipe for success. When you accept this you can only achieve real success through goal setting, you’ll overcome this obstacle. Failing and failing fast is the secret to knowing what you need to do in order to grow your business.
Perhaps you’re scared to set a goal for something because you see it as outrageous. For instance, let’s say that you want to go back to university to get a Master’s degree, or you want to start your own business. You fear that if you set that goal, and other people know about the goal they’ll judge you harshly for wanting it. You worry that they may think you’ve become too big for your boots. If you are worried about what others think of you, it’s time to dig deep inside yourself and remember what other people think of you is none of your business. The truth is, what you think of yourself is more important than anything else.
When you stop judging yourself, you’ll stop worrying about the judgment of others.
Believe it or not, some people are afraid of success and being more visible. They feel too much pressure surrounding success to actually make goals to be successful. They are more comfortable in their role as someone who is not successful or who is “normal” instead of as someone who sets a goal, works toward achieving it, and is seen as a success.
The truth is, there will always be people who want to tear you down once you achieve some success. I’ve lost count of the number of nights Sarah has cried over someone attacking her for daring to be more than the label they’ve given her. The answer? Find like-minded Dream Catchers. You can find your tribe of people to help you deal with becoming more visible, or a coach that will help you overcome blocks surrounding this.
The saddest thing in life is regretting not doing something. Most people regret the things they did not do, more than the things they did do – right or wrong.Don’t live a life filled with regret; you’re worth more than that.
This is where the way you see yourself is important, because if you see yourself as someone who doesn’t follow through, who doesn’t succeed and who can’t change their life, you’ll avoid goal setting like the plague.
You’re the only person on Earth who can control your actions, you are the person in chrage of your destiny so it makes sense that you’re the only one who can set the goals for you.
As hard as it is to believe you’re also the only one who can make yourself feel worth it.
People avoid goal setting because they simply do not see the vision of what can be. They don’t believe. They don’t picture themselves fully at the point of success, experiencing success. Since they think it can’t happen, they don’t try. But, the truth is, you can’t know for sure about anything unless you follow the steps necessary to reach a goal.
You can dream big, and reach for the stars. Trying is more important in most circles than actually making it. And, chances are that if you really try, you will make it after all.
Goal setting is what separates the wannables from the actuallys. If you want to truly see all your dreams and visions come to fruition then set some goals – start small.
It doesn’t matter if it’s business oriented or personal – set a realistic and achievable goal, and then working toward realising that goal on a daily basis does amazing things not only to your confidence, but those around you. All you just have to do the work.
As a small business owner we have to learn or at least have a good understanding of so many things in business but one thing that often people struggle with is around thinking creatively throughout their business. I hear all the time so an so is the creative one, I don’t have a creative bone in my body or creativity only comes to me now and again when I don’t have time to act upon it… all excuses for not being creative.
The truth is, most of the time the creative process is not really as spontaneous as some people might think it was. You can’t just sit around and wait for creativity to suddenly strike. Creativity takes a little work and planning and can be taught
Let’s explore a few things we can do no matter how creative you think you are that can spark off those creative juices.
It’s really easy to get tied down with typical business activities once you have your business flowing. But, you don’t want to rest on your laurels; it’s important to choose a regular time to brainstorm new ideas. It could be at the end of the month, before a new quarter, or any time that makes sense to you. The important thing is to take the time out to brainstorm new ideas. In our business we do this two ways, on a Monday morning Sarah and I sit down to our weekly ‘board meeting’ where we add time in to think of ideas for our business development secondly as a family we make it fun, we use a variation of James Altuchers technique ‘the ten ideas’ to get our creativity as a family really flowing, this is done over our evening meal which adds a real sense of conversation to the evening. More of that in another post I think.
While you’re brainstorming, keep track of the ideas that come to mind, and take the stance that no idea is a stupid idea. Sure, some ideas are wacky and may not work, but even a truly ridiculous idea can become genius if given half a chance. During brainstorming nothing whatsoever is off limits. If you put blocks in your way and start classifying things as silly or wrong, you will not be able to let ideas flow freely. Some people keep an ideas pad on their bedside table, you can add an ideas folder on your desktop computer or just use your phones voice recorder to speak the ideas in whilst out and about the key is to record them somewhere then at a later time go back and look at them again
Once you have some ideas, it’s time to narrow them down and start doing some research. It’s important that you handle this process on your own. Don’t turn over the research at this stage to someone else. Instead, learn about your idea, test your ideas, and get feedback from others before you turn it over to your team. You can use your email list to ask their views and for feedback. If you run a facebook group or have a page conduct a poll there to get valuable feedback at this stage all feedback can be useful to ensure the idea becomes a viable option.
The exciting fact about learning is that you can learn anything new and it will help you in all aspects of your life. What you choose to learn about today may have nothing whatsoever to do with your career or business, but it will open your mind to new possibilities. It’s important to always be involved in the learning process, whether it’s learning a new software program, or learning how to make a rock garden. For creativity to flow we need input to get those neurones firing on all cylinders by taking things in through books, TV programs courses or podcasts, for example, we are expanding our thinking.
It’s easy to get caught up in our own bubble. This happens a lot to people who have their own business, and it also happens to company directors that employ people. If you’ve surrounded yourself with a team, sometimes the team can get lazy and maybe even fearful of disagreeing with you about anything that you say or do. Invite new people into the fold, get out of your office by going to a conference or networking or a business mastermind group, something so that you can separate yourself from your inner circle enough to soak in new thoughts and ideas from a totally different perspective to those that are normally around you
Dare to dream the big dreams about yourself and your business. If your mother did not tell you that you are capable of anything, then that’s too bad. Because, the truth is, your success or failure is down to you and you alone in the way you think, it has to do with the ability to dream and think big – outside of the world you currently live – and see the possibilities that are on the other side. To allow your mind to visualise those things that you may have in the past thought were out of your reach. The power of belief and self belief are enormous and will remove any creative blocks that may be popping into your head
Brainstorming, researching, learning and dreaming only go so far without actions. So, someplace in the creative process should be a plan in which to take action. Actual steps that you need to do to see something through to fruition. It’s like anything else you do in life – if you don’t take the steps necessary to make it to your destination, you will never get there. That goes with being healthier, starting a new business, and being more creative. You have to practice doing to get results.
It can be easy to get carried away doing everything and then when things aren’t going the way we want them to it’s easy to give up. It takes 10,000 hours to become an expert. With any idea that you come up with that you want to succeed in accomplishing, you should be willing to spend the 10,000 hours needed to see it through. If you do that, you will not fail. You may think this is impossible and there pops in those limiting beliefs again but remember this, we create our own destiny, if we want to succeed its down to our commitment and work ethic that will see us get to that goal, if you are not willing to put the hours in you need to consider is this right for you? There is NO short cut to being excellent in business and any successful business owner will tell you but with the work comes the rewards.
Creativity isn’t a magic thing; it’s a thing that you plan to achieve. It’s the thing that will get you up every morning working your business so that you can experience the life that you dream of.
Do share with me how you get your creative juices flowing
To your success